For most of my life, I believed my body was the problem and that food was something I had to control to feel safe. This is a personal story about body shame, dieting, emotional eating, and the moment I realised food was never the enemy, it was a signal. A reflection on how trauma, safety, and nervous system healing changed everything.

After years of healing, I didn’t just find love — I learned how to be in it. This is what I’ve discovered about real partnership, self-work inside a relationship, and why saying no to crumbs was the best thing I ever did.

You plan the week perfectly… and then do the exact opposite.
That’s not laziness — it’s protection.
Inside every self-sabotage pattern lives a part of you trying to keep you safe. In this post, meet the six self-sabotage archetypes — the Perfectionist, the Controller, the Avoider, the Rebel, the Pleaser, and the Fear-of-Being-Seen — and learn what each one truly needs so you can finally stop fighting yourself and start leading with Self.

Some people grow older, but never truly grow up. When your parents never learned how to process emotion, you don’t just inherit their last name, you inherit their emotional blueprint. This isn’t about blame; it’s about understanding what shaped them, and how to finally free yourself from repeating the same patterns.

I made one of those AI images of me holding my younger self, and it completely shook me (in the best way). Because what started as a trend turned into a mirror for how often we abandon the parts of ourselves that need us most.

If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation only to lie awake replaying every word, furious you didn’t speak up, you’re not alone. What looks like “being nice” is often people-pleasing — a survival strategy that silences you, fuels resentment, and drains your energy. In this post, I’ll break down the real cycle of people-pleasing, why it happens, the hidden cost, and how to finally move beyond it.

You might think you’re just overthinking. Or being too sensitive. But what if those thoughts—the spirals, the self-blame, the constant bracing, aren’t flaws at all?
What if they’re signs of your nervous system trying to protect you from pain it’s felt before?
In this post, we explore 8 everyday thinking patterns that are actually rooted in complex childhood trauma, and how real healing begins when we understand what our thoughts are really trying to do.

We call it procrastination, laziness, or lack of discipline. But self-sabotage isn’t random, it’s your nervous system protecting you in ways it learned long ago. From people-pleasing to perfectionism, these patterns aren’t flaws. They’re systems. And once you understand how they work, you can dismantle the loop, heal the parts driving it, and finally move forward with flow and confidence.