Align: A 6-week reset for the woman who holds it all together, but still finds herself slipping into the same patterns… even though she “should know better by now.”
You know that feeling where you’ve done all the work: therapy, journaling, podcasts, meditations, and you’re self-aware enough to give TED Talks on your own patterns.. but somehow you’re still:
overthinking every decision
procrastinating on the things that actually matter
carrying everyone else’s emotional load
snapping or shutting down when you’re overwhelmed
promising yourself “this week will be different”
And then it… isn’t.
And you’re left thinking:
“What the hell is wrong with me? I KNOW this stuff.”
Here’s the truth you won’t hear in therapy rooms or on mindset podcasts:
Knowing your patterns doesn’t change them.
Because the part of you that’s running the show is not the part that reads the books or journals at 6am.
It’s the part that’s exhausted.
The part that’s scared.
The part that doesn’t trust you to slow down or take a risk or say no.
And you don’t need to go back to talk therapy and drag out your entire childhood again to figure this out.
You already understand why you are the way you are.
Understanding isn’t the missing piece: safety is.
How this actually shows up in your day-to-day life:
• You wake up telling yourself, “Today I’m going to be good,” and by 3pm you’re deep in the pantry, the apps, or the shopping cart… again.
• You’re the strong one, the organised one, the capable one — until one tiny thing goes wrong and you’re suddenly spiralling or shutting down.
• You say yes when you want to say no… and then resent everyone because you’re stretched so thin it hurts.
• You want deeper connection but you keep your guard up because needing someone feels like handing them the power to hurt you.
• You overthink texts, emails, decisions, opportunities, even the small stuff because you don’t want to get it wrong.
• You procrastinate on things you want because the pressure to do it perfectly makes you freeze.
• You hold your shit together all day and then collapse the second you’re alone — scrolling, snacking, shutting down.
• You look “fine,” but your jaw is tight, your chest is heavy, and your brain won’t stop giving you a running commentary on everything you did “wrong.”
You’re not dramatic.
You’re not lazy.
You’re not inconsistent.
**You’re tired.
You’re overloaded.
And your nervous system is doing what it learned to do a long time ago: survive.
Why this keeps happening (even though you “know better”)
Because when things feel stressful, uncertain, overwhelming, or emotionally loaded… it’s not your adult self reacting.
It’s the younger part of you who learned:
Keep everyone happy and you’ll be safe.
Don’t ask for help, it backfires.
If you relax, something bad will happen.
If you speak up, you’ll be judged.
If you try and fail, you’ll look stupid.
These old rules are still running the show — quietly, automatically, and faster than your mind can keep up with.
So you wake up wanting to change.
But your body is still bracing.
Your emotions are still guarding.
And those protective patterns jump in before you even realise it.
This is why willpower hasn’t worked.
This is why mindset tools haven’t stuck.
This is why talk therapy helped you understand yourself, but didn’t shift the behaviour.
ALIGN
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The cast of characters running your life (aka the reasons you’re exhausted)
The “I should be doing more” voice
It piles pressure on you before you’ve even had coffee. It means well — it’s scared you’ll fall behind — but it leaves you wired, tense, and always “on.”
The perfectionist
She wants everything to be flawless on the first try.
Which means nothing ever feels good enough to start.
Or finish.
The spiraller
Everything is fine until one email, one comment, one change of plans — and suddenly you’re stress-cleaning the fridge or crying in the car.
The avoider
She’s the queen of “I’ll do it later.”
Not because you’re lazy, but because doing the thing feels emotionally risky.
The procrastinator
She distracts you with scrolling, snacks, organising the linen cupboard — anything that keeps you away from the task that feels too big.
The inner critic
She swoops in the second you avoid something.
“You’re behind.”
“You’re failing.”
“You’re not good enough.”
She’s brutal… but she thinks the shame will motivate you.
The people-pleaser
She says yes when you mean no, keeps the peace, carries everything, and then wonders why you feel resentful, depleted, and unseen.
The hyper-independent one
She refuses help, never wants to be a burden, and keeps everything on the surface so no one sees how much you’re actually holding.
These aren’t the enemy.
These are old survival strategies.
Protectors.
And you don’t fix them by forcing yourself to try harder.
You shift them by helping them feel safe again.
That’s where ALIGN comes in.
ALIGN is where the shift finally begins.
A 6-week 1:1 IFS-based journey for the high-functioning, self-aware woman who’s done the work, but still feels like she’s stuck in the same cycles — and is ready to break them in a way that actually lasts.
Inside ALIGN, you will:
✔ Identify the exact parts running your patterns
Not in a theoretical way — in a “oh my god, this makes so much sense” way.
You’ll finally understand why you act the way you do, and what that part is afraid of.
✔ Learn how to regulate your nervous system
So you stop swinging between being “on top of everything” and collapsing into avoidance, shutdown or numbing.
✔ Release outdated beliefs your younger parts still carry
The ones that say:
“If I rest, everything will fall apart.”
“If I slow down, I’ll lose momentum.”
“If I need something, I’ll get hurt.”
“If I speak up, they’ll leave.”
“If I try and fail, I’ll look stupid.”
These beliefs aren’t “mindset” — they’re emotional memories. And in ALIGN, they finally soften.
✔ Rebuild new roles for your parts
Parts that once sabotaged you will start supporting you.
Instead of pressure → you get clarity.
Instead of overthinking → grounded decisions.
Instead of procrastinating → gentle, consistent action.
✔ Reconnect with the you underneath it all
The version of you who feels steady, calm, confident and clear.
The one who can hold boundaries, trust herself, and move through life without spiralling at every minor stress.
Why this works (when other things haven’t)
Because ALIGN doesn’t try to fix your behaviour.
It transforms the part of you that’s driving it.
You’ve done the journaling, the meditations, the “I just need to be more disciplined.”
You’ve done the podcasts, the therapy, the self-awareness.
You don’t have a knowledge problem.
You have a safety problem.
Your system doesn’t feel safe to slow down.
Safe to start.
Safe to be seen.
Safe to need.
Safe to rest.
Safe to speak up.
Safe to follow through.
And until your system feels safe, it will keep choosing the survival strategies it learned when you were young.
ALIGN works because it creates that safety, internally, emotionally, and somatically.
You’re not talking at your patterns.
You’re repairing the fear underneath them.
That’s the difference.
That’s why this work sticks.
What this looks like in your actual life:
Not the curated “after” version people pretend to have online, the real shifts your nervous system feels.
✔ You stop saying yes out of guilt
You don’t rehearse your boundaries for three days.
You don’t apologise for existing.
You don’t betray yourself to keep the peace.
You simply say “no, that doesn’t work for me” and your able to stay in your body and not spend the next day thinking about it or trying to smooth it over.
✔ You make decisions without spiralling
You’re not lying awake replaying conversations.
You’re not crowd-sourcing your choices with five friends.
You trust your read, trust your timing, and trust your self.
Small or big — decisions feel lighter.
✔ You stop procrastinating things that matter
You don’t wait until panic is the only motivator you have.
Tasks don’t feel as heavy.
Your brain isn’t arguing with you for eight hours before you start.
You take action without the full dramatic pre-game ritual.
✔ You don’t need to numb out to cope
The wine, the chocolate, the shopping cart, the scrolling.. they lose their charge.
Not because you “restrain” yourself, but because your system isn’t overwhelmed to begin with.
✔ You connect more deeply without losing yourself
You stop pretending you’re fine.
You stop carrying the emotional load of every relationship.
You stop being the responsible one and the invisible one.
You start being honest, open and held, without fear.
✔ You don’t collapse every time you slow down
You can actually rest.
Not “scrolling rest.”
Not “exhausted collapse.”
Real, regulated rest, without guilt or tension.
✔ You feel like yourself again
Not the anxious version.
Not the overthinking version.
Not the running-on-adrenaline version.
You, grounded, soft, steady, clear.
What the women are saying inside Align
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“I stopped sabotaging myself and finally felt safe in my body.”
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"I actually launched my business instead of overthinking it for months.”
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“I stopped people-pleasing. I started sleeping better. My relationship feels easier.”
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“I don’t spiral anymore. I feel clear. My anxiety finally makes sense.”
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“I feel like myself for the first time in years.”